PEER PRESSURE

WHAT IS PEER PRESSURE?

Peer pressure is influence from people you hang out with. The influence will be positive or negative influence.

A Quick Example of Positive Peer Pressure

You become member of a sports or academic team. And the goals of the team is to win the championship. You are new to the team and you see everybody working hard to win the championship.

They are working out every day if it’s a sports team. Or they are studying hard every day if it’s an academic team. You’ve always liked being a part of a team, but you were never good at being faithful to practice and hard work.

After a few practices you begin to see how serious everybody on the team is. They start to encourage you to participate more. You decide to dive in all the way because you want to fit in with a winning team.

A Quick Example of Negative Peer Pressure

You become a member of a team, but this team’s goals aren’t the same as the winning team’s goals. You notice people coming to practice whenever they feel like it and they don’t work as hard as a team that wants to win a championship.

You’ve always been the type of person who goes after your goals with excitement and a willingness to work hard at being a winner, but the team you just joined isn’t interested in nothing but chilling and hanging out. They begin to tell you negative things like:

  • You don’t have to work that hard, it’s not that serious.
  • Your coach or team captain doesn’t know what he/she is doing.
  • Nobody cares how good you do.
  • Nobody will notice you working so hard.

You realize they are trying to take you out of your plan and way of being successful and refuse to listen to them and keep working hard. And soon the ones who act like they’re for you start saying things like:

  • You think you’re better than they are.
  • You’re afraid to do it their way.
  • You’re not down with them if you don’t do it their way.

You’ve just read two examples of peer pressure and you are dealing with both on a regular. You must a make decision which way you’re going. Are you down with the winning team? Are you down with the losing team? It’s up to you. Keep this in mind. You can’t be down with both, down with whatever. When it comes to your life and your future, it’s either you do, or you don’t.

A Guide For Dealing With Peer Pressure

You become a member of a team, but this team’s goals aren’t the same as the winning team’s goals. You notice people coming to practice whenever they feel like it and they don’t work as hard as a team that wants to win a championship.

Please understand that your mind must be made up to succeed in everything you decide to do. Nobody can make you do what you don’t want to do, whether it’s good or bad.

Decide on what you’re trying to accomplish. Then think about what you’ll need to make things happen.

Be friends and hang out with people who will encourage you to keep going in the right direction.

Get away from people when they tell you that you think you’re better than they are or better than other people. RUN DON’T WALK!!!

Sometimes it might seem like you don’t have any friends. It can be lonely when you’re trying to do the right thing and are working toward being a winner. That’s okay. Sooner or later, there will be people who will be like the ones on the winning team who will encourage you to work hard and practice.

If the people you hang out with are participating in bad habits like smoking cigarettes, drinking liquor, doing drugs, involved in criminal activities and taking part in some of these dangerous and ridiculous challenges, try to be a good influence, but do it from a distance. You can’t change anybody unless they want to change.

Listen to your parents, teachers and other older people. They have been on this earth longer than you and probably better at spotting trouble than you are. If they say you should watch your friends, you need to start watching them.

When you say NO to what you don’t want to do…say it like you mean and stick to it! If you’re caught up with negative peers and want out, talk to your parents or someone who can help you. There is a way out if you want a way out.